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Self-Care is a Journey – not a destination

I define self-care as the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual care we give ourselves in an integrated way and indefinitely. By this I mean that self-care is not about a one time trip to the mall, hair or nail salon. Self-care is about the intention in that trip, how you feel about life and yourself before taking that trip and whether that feeling is true. Self-care is NOT unintentional in this definition. Self-care requires self-awareness, reflection and initiative to shift. Self-care requires patience, self-love and the ability to forgive and […]

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New Year Resolutions are Actually Self-Care affirmations

Self-Care is always on my resolution list. Happy New Year! Welcome to day 11 of 2019 and day 14 of my personal New Year! While we are celebrating the New Year as a whole, I just celebrated my PERSONAL New Year aka, my birthday, on December 29th and this is the time for ME to reset and revisit my year.   Self-Care is the critical piece of my ALL my resolutions because as I define in my book, self-care is the mental, physical, emotional, spiritual work we do to heal ourselves daily.  Every intention we set, every word we utter, every thought we think is either taking us away from wellness or adding to our wellness.  Therefore, our self-care is integral to our well-being on all levels and the foundation for our goals/resolutions/intentions.  I realize that in 2018 I did some amazing things! I spoke at conferences, started a podcast, nurtured postpartum doula/mentoring clients, took some amazing courses, healed my spirit and some relationships deeply, lost some relationships, traveled to new places and so much more. All of these were goals/intentions I started 2018 with and I nurtured my mind, body, spirit and actions to achieve them! This year, my focus is on even DEEPER self-care by challenging myself to go higher and cross into uncharted territories.  This includes: wealth building, creating legacy, deepening relationships I already have while creating healthier ones, more travel, more uninterrupted self-focus with unapologetic self-intimacy.  (I am smiling so hard when I […]

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The Space Between

Recently I have been thinking heavily on how we acquire knowledge but don’t apply it.  We are all at different stages.  In certain areas in my life, I apply knowledge quickly and indefinitely.  In some areas such as creating boundaries and weight loss – I have a corpus of knowledge that has yet to be applied or tried and failed on occasions. When I first started learning Reiki, for example, the process made so much sense to me.  Something to LIVE rather than study.  However, I struggled with applying it […]

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Chakras, Parenting, Self-Care

Understanding our chakras is critical to healing ourselves and understanding many of the challenges and opportunities for self-reflection and growth that parenting presents.  This overview is for a more in depth understanding of chakras for a parent who desires to destroy generational cycles and activate sacred self-care. First, Chakras are seven spinning wheels of energy within the human energy field that keeps our psychological, emotional and spiritual well-being in harmony.  These wheels of energy start from the base of our spine and go up to a few inches above our […]

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For Daughters on Mother’s Day when their Mothering wasn’t enough…..

I get it.  We all love warm and gushy feelings.  It is far easier to discuss the light and feel good things than to peer into the dark or things that make us feel heavy and burdened because we know what to do with the light.  We can pass the light on, keep it shining and make it even more beautiful if we can. But what about the darkness and heavy feeling topics.  Should they be ignored, unexplored, or forgotten.  After all we wouldn’t even know light if not for darkness.  Technically – Scientifically – the light can not exist without the dark.  Why then do we avoid dark topics?  Especially around those people, places and things that we are oftentimes told we MUST admire because the infallibility of them we perceive based on the character we assume they must possess due to them performing basic deeds and acts.  So if someone donates to charity we assume they are a charitable person.  If someone points out they donated for a tax break we may jump down their throats with all kinds of retorts.  A conversation around the plausibility of their statement isn’t even allowed.  It seems that we may allow positive assumptions around a positive role but shirk negative ones.  But this seems to have it’s limits to certain people.  We may love our family irrespective of their imperfections – but we would not do the same for a described […]

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Keeping a clean home is not about judgement – it is about staying in your flow and power

Garnering and maintaining energy while keeping up with the many duties that women, specifically busy mothers have to tackle daily can be daunting when the purpose of the duties are for others consumption and perception.  As I grew and became more aware of my power as a woman, mother and manager of my home I realized how certain ideas that had been ingrained in me about keeping my home clean both helped and hindered my own energy and the energy of my home.  Let me paint the scene: “Her house is dirty – how is she letting people come to her dirty house” “She a nasty woman – look at her house” “Keep your house clean or others will look at you like you are nasty” We all heard some variation of these statements growing up and more specifically as adults.  In fact, women often struggle after delivery of their child with the idea of their homes not being clean – not from a perspective that a clean home will enhance their energy but from the perspective that they will be looked at unfavorably as a woman for keeping a nasty home.  We must shift the viewpoint with which we filter many of the lessons we learned as women about our value from judgement of our selves to the power of our roles. Keeping your home clean is essential because a clean home – the primary place of manifestation – […]

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Ways we can “Mother Ourselves”into healing and self love

Mothering ourselves can be a bit tricky to navigate.  First, we have to removed the gendered identity of thinking love is a womanly “soft” love.  Instead we have to think of it as universal, ebb and flow, tough and ease – a dichotomy of emotional stances we must build within ourselves in order to grow and develop.  For example, a child doesn’t need an adult to softly speak ‘stop’ when they are about to burn themselves, they need that adult to go snatch them away from the fire.  That is mothering too.  And it also does not have to come through a woman – mothering is the nurturing needed at the moment and it is intuitive, but not always painless. I realized I was mothering myself, not out of an absence of motherly love (though for some that is a starting point) but out of the desire to become who I truly am and to sincerely and earnestly be loved by ME.  Self love and adoration through your intuitive needs is the ultimate Mothering of Self because it requires reflection, honesty and changed behavior and it comes from a universal source that is here to nourish your highest self. When I was determining if I should stay in my EdD program or leave, I decided that I should leave because it was not in my best interest at the time.  My Inner Mother, in all her wisdom, showed me that […]

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FORGIVENESS?

I DON’T Agree with the forgiveness movement.  I advocate honest change in behavior. I’ve seen many phrases going around that posits forgiveness as a healer, a panacea for a victims anger and discontent over what was done.  However, I know better and anyone else who has been slighted, especially by family or friends, knows better.  Forgiveness is not for the victim, it is for the person being forgiven to feel better.  I am not a fan on rushed feel good moments, because on the other side of that, is an […]

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Mothering Ourselves for personal liberation and intergenerational healing

Family relations are the basis for how we understand ourselves.  How our family sees us as children is how we learn to see ourselves as adults.  However, it is my contention and mission that when we grow up we must separate ourselves from unhealthy childhood patterns and concepts in order to connect with our true child-like confidence, curiosity and our adult wisdom.  Generational patterns can be passed through us if we do not take the time to reflect on events, acknowledge our intuition around subjects and unveil to the truth of who we are.  When we unveil and honor ourselves and feelings, we enact the ability to Mother Ourselves.  When we Mother Ourselves, we live in our own divinity. Irrespective of what your past has been, you can change the trajectory of the future. Irrespective of your present, you can change the trajectory of your future.   Join me in my #MommyMagic: Healing across generations tele-series, where we will discuss subjects such as “The Mother Wound”, why we need to stop sacrificing ourselves to false ideals, How to honor the mother within via our intuition and much more.  During this series we will be empowered to live our lives as mothers of the earth, through learning that mothering ourselves is the first step. You can register here for all or part of the series. With love, -Cecile Creative Director, MommyEvolve

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Money, Mindset, Mommy

Great day my loves.  It is always a great day to speak money, mindset and mommies making moves.  I have to get real here.  I am intelligent, quick witted and full of creative ideas.  However, I, like many can get caught in the mindset that wealth evades me.  The reason for this is simply – mindset.  I did say I have many skills and talents, besides making wonderful line of MomMeTime Products, MommyEvolve also has many services all of which I created from my essence and talents!  Yet because the wealth I envision has not manifested in the forms I want yet, I call myself unwealthy or am afraid to spend money or think about what I spend so much that it cancels out the blessing and energy of what I just spent.  Yes, you heard me very correctly.  This is not a signal or sign from GOD that you should go out and spend all the money you have…..but it is a clear expression that when you spend money on yourself and then worry about the idea that you spent it – you are telling the universe energy that you don’t like spending money on yourself.  Too many of us do it. Instead of standing in our power, knowing we are wealthy, we loath paying bills, consider money usage as spending instead of circulating and worry about money negatively all the time. Well, these are some of the things I am doing […]

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