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Mother’s love begins with themselves……

Mother’s are pulled everywhere.  The children, the home, ensuring everything is in order, bills are paid, clothes are laid, beds are made.  This is a cute rhyme but also a busy reality for MANY women who have chosen to be mothers.  Within all of the mayhem of working we often hear women say…..”I DON’T EVEN HAVE TIME FOR MYSELF?”———It is time to shift that mentality.  We hear about self love often but what does self love mean?  Can we say we love ourselves yet run ourselves ragged….can we say we love ourselves and not eat right or exercise?  can we love ourselves and not take time out for connecting and re-connecting with our creator – Great mother – God – Jesus – Buddah or whatever spiritual entity gives you strength and love, unconditionally.  How can we run around, never stop to hear our inner higher selves  yet proclaim love of self?  This is not a quip that is bent on being harsh or making anyone feel bad.  It is a part of what I do which is to get others to think and align, words with deed!  It is how I have gotten through my misalignment, fear, anxiety, etc.  I knew I was not living in my center, in my truth….in fact I realized that I was running on ‘E’ trying to fuel everyone else.   That kind of craziness can only leave you depleted and defeated.  So what does […]

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INTRODUCTION

Mommy evolve started as a way to bring practical solutions, candid conversation, empowerment and community to mothers. Whether you are a single mother, married, or happily co-parenting we as mothers have two important pieces of the parenting puzzle to ensure we manage well. 1. Ourselves 2. Our children. While we hear the adage that “parenting does not have a manual”, and while it doesn’t because each child is unique, there are certain UNIVERSAL knowledge that can be implemented to improve your relationship with your child(ren), reduce stress, and stay balanced. I use professional advice through books and stories and anecdotes, offer real solutions that require mothers to take a good hard look at themselves and the generational wounds that they may carry or unprocessed lessons that restrict them from forming a deep understanding of their role as parent. Frankly as a parent and teacher I am appalled and tired of hearing adults alienate teens with phrases like “these children these days” “why are they like this?” “my parents would have….if I would have”. While frustrations keep us from recalling our own teen years which most likely caused disturbances and many of the same questions for your parents, we still need to realize that our youth of today are our future doctors, police, firemen/women, lawyers, government workers, fast food servers, actors, directors, etc. We assist them in nurturing that. In addition there are many ailments our children must nurture because WE […]

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Book Review: Don’t Blame Mother: Mending the mother daughter relationship by Paula J. Caplan

Through the process of writing a book about intergenerational healing in families I do research. I’ll write about the contents of the book in another post.  It is heartening to know that other authors have taken on the ideas already because it is not easy to consider. There is so much emotion around mothering, motherhood, childhood memory, etc.  There are grand expectations of mothers and for various reasons.  I started to read this book and so many emotions arose for myself which cause me to reevaluate some of my thoughts and actions. This first review points out some relevant and poignant ideas of the preface, Chapter 1 and 2. Preface:  Caplan begins to discuss the ideas surrounding the mother blaming culture we live in.  While I recognize that women are in their own process even while mothering another person, I never thought of societal mother blaming but do understand that society often does ask people to look at Mothers with a lot of scrutiny when things are bad or good about a person.  In this section of the book Caplan also points out that perspectives of marginalized mothers or those of different ethnicities are specific. She lists the following books as resources: Generations of women in Their own words by Mariana Cook and Jamaica Kincaid, Phyllis Cheslers’ Letters to a young Feminst, Mothering Against Odds: Diverse Voices of Contemporary Mothers, Crossing the Color Line: Race, Parenting and Culture, Single mamahood: Advice and Wisdom […]

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